Exclusive: Torrence’s Talk With Debra WinansPublished by Torrence Glenn on Monday, December 7, 2009 at 6:12 pm.
Earlier today, Bebe Winans was cleared of all charges of assaulting his former wife Debra Winans. You can read his statement here. Well, I also spoke to Debra to get her take on today’s events and she didn’t hold back.
*Here’s our conversation:*
Today, Bebe was exonerated of the assault charges concerning you. How do you feel about that? Was justice served?
Absolutely not. The one thing I will tell you Torrence, the one thing he will have to live with for the rest of his life is that his children witnessed it. They were not able to be heard from a judge. They were never asked about it in court. They could not give testimony. But they will never forget what he’s done.
Why weren’t they allowed to speak?
Well, some judges don’t do that because of their age. They’re 14 and 10. Unless it’s like a murder case or something like that, they don’t want the children to be in the middle. However, my daughter wrote a letter, because there were some other things that Bebe tried to sabotage. She’s 14. She’s very expressive. She’s a great writer and it’s very clear where she is, where they are. That’s why I’m saying: you can fool a judge, you can fool a counselor from who decided he shows no signs of domestic violence in only 2 sessions. And my response to the D.A. was ‘so did the man that killed all the people at Ft. Hood showed no signs of violence, but wow, didn’t he ever do the damage.’ He will have to live with that. I know he is guilty. That’s never gonna change.
Do you now wish you might have moved forward with the earlier charges you pressed. (Debra filed domestic violence charges against Bebe for another incident a few years ago that she subsequently dropped.)
Oh absolutely. I realized later that was a big mistake. Because at least it would have been on record. I don’t know how much difference it would have made because it happened in a different county, but at least it would have been on record. And if anybody’s smart, they can still go to the archives and pull it up from Williamson County. But I wish I would have kept those charges. But like I explained, I wanted my children more. And at that time I didn’t realize that he could not take them from me. I was so fearful and he had a whole lot more money and he had a whole lot more influence. And I believed it. I believed that he could take them. But I know different. I know a whole lot different now.
So where does that leave the custody dispute.
Oh, it’s still very much there. But I will fight it to the bare end. I’m raising Benjamin and Mya. our children love him but they have their own conclusions. They’ve had their own experiences with him. They respect him because I taught them to. They don’t like what he does. They’re children, but they’re smart and they know. They know. Forget me, I can handle me. But when you affect these babies, I have a real problem with you. And he will have to deal with that when he looks them in their face, and he knows that they know the truth. Say all you want. Say all this about God’s vindication and all that. All of it means absolutely zero to your children who should be the most important people on this earth. Deal with it. He’ll have to deal with that.
So the former custody agreement is still in place?
Yeah, the parenting plan is still in place. But I’m working on some things to make some serious changes. But please understand I’m not going to be silent anymore. I’m just not. Unfortunately, I thought I was doing the right thing by being quiet all these years. Like I said, it’s a delay of the inevitable. It is what it is, but the scripture is very clear that there is a time to be a silent and a time to speak. And that time is now for me.
Are you fearful of any future altercations with him.
Let’s just face it, if you do it once, you’ll do it twice. And if you’ll do it twice, you’ll do it again. He’s already slapped my daughter across her face. C’mon. People don’t know who he really is. But we do, so we deal with him accordingly. But ya know, when you’ve got money and power.. but he doesn’t have more money and power than God. My comfort is in knowing that our vindication is going to come. That is my comfort.
Wow, Debra is not finished with this situation. What do you think? Who do you believe? My goal in speaking to Debra was to give them both an opportunity to share their side of the story. It’s a very sad story but as we’ve seen lately; Christians, gospel artists, etc. are not immunie to real life issues and we should deal with them as they come up. Like I always say when difficult situations happen to our folks, I’m hoping and praying for the best in all of this. Although I don’t know what that is…
What are your thoughts?