Looking for Love, on a Hell Date…

Are you kidding me? In these modern times, it hard to find a couple whose foundation is love. Love is definitely the basis of intimacy, but the men and women of this generation seem more fascinated by credit scores, shiny rides, and graduating from their starter homes (What in the hell-date, is a starter home?), than in finding someone to share their lives with. Surprisingly, some young people might argue that even the word love, and all that it means is outdated.

Our parents’ generation danced and reveled in true love. Those were the days when people actually believed in love. People inhaled love, they dreamed about it, they hoped for it, and to live with love, was absolutely phenomenal.

While I am still a believer in the old fashioned kind of love, I’m one to argue, that the three greatest words are not ‘I love You,’ but ‘As You Wish.’ Those words require action, toward your mate… Try it today, when your mate makes a request, say ‘As You Wish Dear.’ Watch the appreciation.

Even though love starts with you, and is expressed from the inside out, there are certain external factors that can affect intimacy. Are you an optimist? Do you encourage or discourage happiness? Is reciprocity a common practice, of yours? What’s your favorite love song? What passion and depth does it hold? Your favorite song says a lot about how you view love. Are you a ‘Knocking the Boots’, or ‘Between the Sheets’ type of mate, or does your heart call for ‘I Will Always Love You,’ ‘Summer Rain,’ or ‘Ribbon in the Sky?’ Whatever your flavor, understand that love is patient, honest, and understanding. Emphasis on the word HONEST!

I challenge you to obtain and maintain love and intimacy… But remember, love alone is never enough, so make sure you and your mate are compatible.

Do you know love? If so, explain what love is to you in under, 25 words… It must be in sentence form.

Dr. Tiy-E
www.drtiye.com

How do men and women view the first date?

Men are from the sun and women are from the moon,
each one is a compliment of the other. When a man goes
on a date, his first thoughts are usually of a lustful nature.
Whereas, a woman has a future husband on her mind. The
man in preparation for his first date has the physical aspects
of that date on his mind. Remember, men are very physical
and it’s up to that woman to take his mind elsewhere,
to meet and respect her mind not her body. Let me add that a
woman pursues sex in order to receive affection, whereas a man
gives affection in order to receive sex.

The first date, giving credit to my men, we usually view every
woman as the pedestal woman (not a potential ‘Hell Date’) it’s
only after the date that she either plummets to the alleged average
woman or she remains on that pedestal. There is also another layer
to the dating experience for men. On the first date, even though we
men focus on the physical, in the back of our mind, there’s always
the hope that this could be the one. A man will waste no time,
mentally demoting his date to, ‘just a sleeping partner.’ Ladies give
him your mind to appreciate and you’ll have a higher success rate.

The woman is looking for her knight in shining armor (not a boy). She
tells all of her lady friends. Ladies will make major preparations and
Heaven forbid, if she has a preconceived idea, that this man may be the
future husband she’s looking for. She will pull out all of the essentials,
(make-up, new personality, new dress, etc.) and a lot of times, if the
man is really observant, he will notice that she’s wearing desperate all
over her face. The lady will also be a yes woman to her first date, doing
and saying whatever it takes to satisfy her potential mate. But, most men,
because we don’t know dating etiquette, we usually end up being
the ‘Hell Date.” Have you ever been a ‘Hell Date?’

THERAPY=be true to who you are, and who’s you are.

Dr. Tiy-E

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