How do men and women view the first date?

Men are from the sun and women are from the moon,
each one is a compliment of the other. When a man goes
on a date, his first thoughts are usually of a lustful nature.
Whereas, a woman has a future husband on her mind. The
man in preparation for his first date has the physical aspects
of that date on his mind. Remember, men are very physical
and it’s up to that woman to take his mind elsewhere,
to meet and respect her mind not her body. Let me add that a
woman pursues sex in order to receive affection, whereas a man
gives affection in order to receive sex.

The first date, giving credit to my men, we usually view every
woman as the pedestal woman (not a potential ‘Hell Date’) it’s
only after the date that she either plummets to the alleged average
woman or she remains on that pedestal. There is also another layer
to the dating experience for men. On the first date, even though we
men focus on the physical, in the back of our mind, there’s always
the hope that this could be the one. A man will waste no time,
mentally demoting his date to, ‘just a sleeping partner.’ Ladies give
him your mind to appreciate and you’ll have a higher success rate.

The woman is looking for her knight in shining armor (not a boy). She
tells all of her lady friends. Ladies will make major preparations and
Heaven forbid, if she has a preconceived idea, that this man may be the
future husband she’s looking for. She will pull out all of the essentials,
(make-up, new personality, new dress, etc.) and a lot of times, if the
man is really observant, he will notice that she’s wearing desperate all
over her face. The lady will also be a yes woman to her first date, doing
and saying whatever it takes to satisfy her potential mate. But, most men,
because we don’t know dating etiquette, we usually end up being
the ‘Hell Date.” Have you ever been a ‘Hell Date?’

THERAPY=be true to who you are, and who’s you are.

Dr. Tiy-E